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Nov
26

How a funeral is planned

Funerals and memorial services provide an opportunity for family members, friends and others to gather together to honour and remember the person who died while offering comfort and support to each other.

Planning a funeral or memorial service is a highly personal process, and your decisions will be shaped by your life experiences, your relationship to the deceased, what the deceased wanted or what you desire for yourself after you die, what you can afford, and a myriad of other factors.

Whether planned after a death occurs or beforehand arranging a funeral or memorial service often proves an emotional, and sometimes exhausting, process. 

Hopefully this information will help to make that process a little easier to understand.....

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Jan
13

Death Doula

Today we are proud to present one of our CCN Members, Elaine Dinnigan as our guest blogger.

Death Doula
 
"While I thought that I was learning how to live, I have been learning how to die."
~Leonardo Da Vinci
               
Death is a natural and important part of life.
Death Doula

Death Companion

Death Midwife

End of Life Guide

These are all names to describe people who choose to provide information and or services to the dying and their family.  I choose to call myself an End of Life Doula.

The name β€œdoula” originates in Greece and means "a woman who serves” and was given to those who served women through the lifecycles, hence the term 'birth doula' for those who support the beginning of life.

End of Life Doulas work alongside other professionals, family and friends, utilising non-medical skills. They accompany, guide and assist the dying person and their family providing information and support.  Doula services can be provided in the home, aged care, palliative care facilities and hospitals. It is a heart centred practice that empowers individuals and the family and allows the grieving process to follow a gentle path.


The Chapel of Bones - Portugal - Photo Credit: Dominique Fouet

 I personally provide end of life planning, support visits, family relief, vigils, home funerals and on call services.

As an End of Life Doula, I view myself as part of a renewed death positive movement moving away from the medicalisation of death allowing people choices about dying at home and refusing life extending treatments.

In Australia this happens through advanced care planning and includes advance health directives, Enduring Power of Guardianship and Enduring Power of Attorney in Western Australia.



If you would like to contact Elaine for further information you can find her here: 
www.facebook.com/deathdoulaperth
Boy, when you're dead, they really fix you up.
I hope to hell when I do die somebody has sense enough to just dump me in the river or something.

Anything except sticking me in a goddam cemetery.
People coming and putting a bunch of flowers on your stomach on Sunday, and all that crap.
Who wants flowers when you're dead?
Nobody.

~J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye,1945

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Sep
26

It's Time



It's Time!


Spring equinox 23rd September 2017


It's officially spring....
the flowers are blooming...
 new life is emerging....


Photo courtesy of The French Click

IT'S TIME to book your celebrant

If you are planning on getting married anytime in the next eighteen months (that’s how long your NOIM is valid for) then call and book your celebrant soon and get that paperwork done.

You can still get married this spring if you're quick, the Notice Of Intended Marriage (NOIM) form must be lodged with your celebrant one month before the ceremony; plenty of time still for a November wedding.


Photo courtesy of The French Click

IT'S TIME to plan your summer celebrations

Clean up the garden, pack away the winter clothes, and make your bookings for festivals, concerts, holidays, backyard BBQs and beach weddings.

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Photo courtesy of The French Click 

IT'S TIME to have your say on marriage equality


Interesting Fact from Wikipedia: With several countries revising their marriage laws to recognise same-sex couples in the 21st century, all major English dictionaries have revised their definition of the word marriage to either drop gender specifications or supplement them with secondary definitions to include gender-neutral language or explicit recognition of same-sex unions.  The Oxford English Dictionary has recognised same-sex marriage since 2000. 


 Haven't Voted Yet?
  
Fill in and post your Vote as soon as possible and if you would like more information visit

CCN's Marriage Equality section. 

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Remember not to add anything other than the response required (i.e. no comments, no glitter, etc) or your survey response could be invalid.

If you’ve lost or damaged your ballot, you can request a new one from the Australian Bureau of Statistics here any time before October 20th.

IT'S TIME to begin planning the final celebration

If you plan on living your life to the end, then you can start by talking to a celebrant about recording β€˜your life story’ or filling in those important documents such as: Advance Health Directive, Enduring Power of Attorney and Enduring Power of Guardianship, a valid Will (who gets what) and emotional will (words of love and wisdom)



Don’t leave it to your family to make difficult decisions at an emotional time, have the conversation now.

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Passage of Time

Sadness passes with time 
A hollow field blanketed with snow 
Soon fills with swaying blooms A darkened sky suddenly illuminates            
A weary traveller’s way 
And Spring follows a Winter’s road 
Which butterflies array 
Somewhere, somehow, shadows 
Give way to sunbeams 
Life’s fabric is painted with promised purpose 
And each day new freshness springs 
Laughter envelops an empty room 
And a broken heart sings 
With an abandonment of joy 
As it finally kisses the dawn 
Of a bright new day!


Little Pebbles and Stepping Stones, Compositions from the heart by Ruth Van Gramberg - 2005


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Aug
03

Make your wishes known now - before it's too late

Make your wishes known now - before it's too late

In keeping with CCN’s contribution to Dying to Know Day next week our blog today is about the importance of making your wishes known before it’s too late.

While no one really likes to think too much about dying it makes sense to prepare for death in the same way that we prepare for other major events in our lives. 

Let’s explore some of the benefits in forward planning...
 
None of us know exactly when or how we are going to die, but you can make your wishes and preferences for your end of life care known by making an Advance Care Plan or Directive.  This will let your family and doctors know what you would like if you are no longer able to make decisions or communicate your wishes.  You can nominate someone to make your health care decisions for you and you can state what is and is not acceptable to you – for example, are there treatments or outcomes that would not be acceptable to you?  



Do you have a legally valid Will?

According to the NSW Trustee and Guardian, 45% of Australians don’t. If you are one of them, there is a risk that your estate – property, money and other assets will be distributed according to a legal formula instead of following your wishes. 
 


So make a Will now!!

What about your funeral? 

You can really help your family out by letting them know what you would prefer – church or civil service, burial or cremation, who to notify of your death, any special music, photos or readings for the ceremony.  It will be much easier for your family or friends to make arrangements if they feel confident that they are fulfilling your wishes.  Rather than saying β€œjust put me in the compost” why not write down and talk about your wishes and tell the family of any plans you have put in place such as a pre-paid funeral arrangement. 



If you are not sure what is possible for funerals why not talk to a CCN funeral celebrant.

Leave a special legacy by recording your life story 

This might be in words, pictures or both.  It might be a published autobiography or a hand filled photo album.  How many times have you wished that you asked your grandfather more about his wartime service or looked at a family photo and wondered who that very old man in the centre of the photo is? 



We live in such a rapidly changing society that the things we thought were normal and mundane when we were young, now seem like ancient history to our grandchildren. Your first job may not even exist today. Your first car may now be viewed as a vintage model.  

If you would like ideas and help to get started with recording your life story contact a CCN celebrant


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May
23

What happens to our digital footprint when we die?

What are the living doing with the digital print of dead loved ones?

Death and dying in our society is still a subject many are uncomfortable with and so the conversations about what happens after death is often ignored or remains within the usual; funeral services, a will, insurance policies, bank accounts and physical property.  

Their digital legacy not given a thought.

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In this age of technology there is more than ever to consider;

Do you have Facebook, Twitter, an email address, google account, apple account?

Do you download music, books and store images, iCloud?

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In this time of mass communication across vast distances, many people have an online presence of some sort and are connected in some way. Have you asked yourself what happens to you or your loved one’s digital print after death?

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Some options are:
Digital estates; where all the information is included in your will as part of your β€˜estate’.

Digital lockers; where all your digital information is recorded in a β€˜locker’ online.

Digital registrar; where your digital information is separate to your physical estate and is in trust for someone close to delete or follow other instructions.

All the options require the person to list all digital accounts, images, location, passwords and other instructions such as transfering to a family member, where the law allows.

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The current legalities around some accounts are not straightforward when it comes to downloaded books, music and other items so please check the current regulations.

Facebook, Twitter, YouTube and some google services already have facilities in place but all the above options need to be done prior to death.

Definitely something to think about.

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Apr
06

How The World Mourns...

When we're faced with inevitable life transitions, such as death, we look to tradition to guide us through the difficult time and help us mourn our loved ones.  

We arrange a funeral, usually with flowers;  we invite friends and family to pay their respects, followed by a wake or a memorial and then we grieve.  

But who's to say that this western tradition suits everybody's way of dealing with death?

There are different ideas about death and funerals and burials around the world..... here are 42 of them.


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This pictograph has been shared from AvasFlowers.net via www.everplans.com

If you are arranging a funeral or starting your pre-funeral planning, you can contact a CCN Celebrant to assist you in creating a beautiful ceremony to suit your needs and style.

 

READ MORE about funeral planning HERE

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Aug
06

What would you like to ask about funerals and memorials?

For Dying to Know Day - today Monday 8th August 2016 - CCN would like to encourage everyone to talk about death and particularly funerals and memorials.  What questions would you like answered by CCN and our celebrant members?

To start the conversation, here are some questions our CCN celebrant members have been asked:

Must we organise a funeral within a few days of a person's death?

Are there any laws we need to know, if we want to organise our own 'send-off'?

Can we have both a funeral and a memorial?

Am I able to pre-plan my funeral ceremony?

How can our family give a loved one a fitting tribute, but not cost us 'an arm and a leg"?

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Can we have a religious funeral ceremony and a civil memorial some time later?

Can we include religious material in a civil funeral?

Our parent does not want any fuss, and tells us not to have a funeral. However we feel uncomfortable about that. What can we do?

If we are not church goers, and do not want to use a funeral chapel, what other venues could we use?

Do we have to have a "Celebration of Life", if our family member was a rather difficult character who caused more pain than joy?

If we were considering a "Do It Yourself" funeral or memorial, what tips do you have for us?

How can we get mum or dad to discuss what they want us to do, when they die?

How can we get our adult children to talk with us - anytime we try they seem to brush the topic to one side?

Civil Celebrations Network (CCN) invites you to ask these questions and more!

You may ask a question via our Blog Comments Section at the bottom of this blog - anytime today or tonight.

In fact, if you are too busy today, then ask when you can.

It's very easy to do.

However, if you have any hassles, please feel free to contact us.

Civil Celebrations Network (CCN) has created a special Dying to Know Section for your information, in addition to our Ceremonies for loss and grief Section for Everyone.

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What have you done to farewell a family member or friend?

You are also invited to share your experiences here with us.

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